Warning Signs You May be Becoming or Already are a Victim of Violence

1. Aggression

You have been shoved, hit, kicked or had objects thrown at you when he was angry.

2. Walking On Eggshells

You feel as though you have to “walk on eggshells” in order to avoid making him angry. You never quite know what will upset him.

3. Isolation

You stop seeing your friends and family because he does not like them and does not want you to spend time with them.
You give up social activities you enjoy because he does not like them and does not want you to go out without him.

4. Controlling Behaviour

You stop expressing your opinions because he does not agree with you or you are afraid to hurt his feelings.
You have to ask permission to do something you ordinarily would do.

5. Jealousy

You believe his jealousy is a sign of love and not a way to control you.
You start to feel like you are his possession and that you cannot spend time with other people without making him angry or jealous.

6. Self – Blaming/ Taking Responsibilty

You start to believe that all problems in the relationship are your fault.
You start to believe that you have caused his anger and begin to blame yourself for his aggression.

7. Put-Downs

You start to believe the negative and critical things he says to make you feel bad about yourself.
You start to believe you cannot live without him and make it on your own.
You start to believe that no other man could, or would, ever love you.

8. Unrealistic Expectations

9. Threatening Behaviour

You are beginning to fear for your safety. You are starting to believe that his threats of violence are real.